What Not To Say...

It is truly interesting to see how other people react to death, people can be so awkward and different about it.  It’s as if they have never experienced it themselves so they have no idea as to what’s going on.  People definitely can say the wrong things easily.  One thing I’m sure people going through this difficult time hate hearing is, “I know how you feel.”  Because I feel like saying “No actually you don’t, you have no idea what this feels like, how dare you try to compare something to this.” 

“Is there anything I can do for you?” yet another phrase used that gets rather annoying after a while.  Obviously we aren’t going to be asking for a lot during this time and the only thing we want is the person we can’t get back.   “It will be all right.” No it won’t be all right, We just lost one of the closest people to us, how do you expect everything to be all right? Which in the long run most the time everything does work out but at the time it doesn’t seem like anything will ever work out again.
People going through this difficult time do need to realize that people do feel awkward during these times and they are just trying to help.  But other people need to recognize the appropriate things to say.  




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First Few Days and Nights...

The first few nights are definitely the hardest.  You don’t sleep, if you get more than a couple hours you should feel lucky.  But then again why should someone consider themselves lucky at all in this situation.  You will probably have nightmares depending on the event for the next few days following, I personally started talking in my sleep after my experience.  Just depends on who you are and how you react.

 If you are like me you probably won’t do much sleeping during the night but during the day.  The nights were especially hard because you had time to just think.  It really sinks in during the night that they are really gone and aren’t coming back; you are too busy during the day to really just sit and think about all of it because people are coming by to visit and talk with you.  I really don’t consider myself a huge people though honestly, so I preferred staying away from everyone and just keeping to myself and getting some sleep finally in. 

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