What To Expect...

Expect food, as odd as that sounds, just be ready for it.  No one knows how to help you so the best thing that they feel they can do is bring you food so that you don’t have to go cook or go out and buy something.  And let’s be honest, who is going to say no to food at any given time?  No one I know that’s for sure. 

Don’t be shocked when you start receiving cards or gift cards to different places.  People want to help in any way.  From my own personal experience I think I received about a dozen cards and probably close to 10 gift cards in about a five day span.  Random gifts also seem to be a thing when helping people get over a loss.  I was given blankets, stuffed animals, games, diary books, and picture frames constantly for about a week straight.  Which in actuality I did put most of that stuff to good use.  Sitting in a house for a week and not going anywhere gets pretty boring after a while.  You can only cry for so long some days before you just start going mad with boredom. 

Most obviously, expect tears; you are going to cry, a lot.  Most likely everyone will, it helps people sometimes.  Crying really is a great stress reliever, and at this point you are probably at an all-time high for stress and don’t really know what else to do.