Finding Help...

Here is a map of the clinics in Topeka you can seek help from.

Finding Help...

There are counseling centers all around you if you feel that you need professional help. Do not feel embarrassed or ashamed for asking for help. Counseling is a safe place to talk to someone who can help you. More people should look in to counseling, it really does benefit you.

 Some charge a hourly fee, while others charge per visit. It all depends who you go to, some centers are paid for with your insurance as well.

In a post later on I will show you a map of the counseling centers in Topeka Kansas.

Personal Stories...

Below is a podcast you can listen to. You will be hearing personal stories deal with death. Download this episode (right click and save)

The Steps...

These are the stages of grieving.

The Process in Depth...

This video explains the steps of grief in detail and is very easy to understand, if you are interested I would recommend watching this!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHmM1vlqVl8

Some Days are Better Than Others...

We all have bad days, we all have good days.  But when we have a bad day, believe me, it is REALLY bad.  Some days just never seem to go well for me, it’s the same way for others I would think as well. 

On days when nothing seems to go right everything seems to come back to me about how much I miss my loved one in heaven.  So, as you would probably assume the bad day turns into a straight nightmare.  It is always important to remember that just because you are having a bad day doesn’t mean it’s a terrible life.  Everyone is going to have those days where all you do is sit around and cry or feel depressed about a death that was important to you, it is only natural you’re going to miss them. 

           

One days like that you always need to remember to look for the positive things in life.   Go out with friends instead of sitting around, try and keep your mind off things.  As time goes on it’ll get easier to keep yourself distracted.  Always remember to talk it out with someone, talking about how you feel will only help ease the pain.   Feel free to share memories on these days about your loved one and stuff that you did with them.  Always think about the good things and never dwell on the bad memories.  

Gone But Never Forgotten...

Something that a lot of people have trouble with is being afraid their loved one will be forgotten.  This is something I not only have dealt with personally but also have had the opportunity to hear other people with the same worries.

The definition in the dictionary of forgotten is this; unremembered, out of mind, past recollection, beyond/past recall, consigned to oblivion. 

In my mind they will never be forgotten, because according to the definition you would have to stop thinking about them, and keep them far away from your thoughts; and let’s be honest, that is never going to happen.  It has been four years since my dad’s passing and there isn't one day that he doesn't cross my mind in one form or another. 

I think the word “forgotten” is too strong of word to be used when dealing with this.  Our minds are very complex things and to completely forget a great loss is a very difficult thing to do whether you want to or not.  There are far too many things in this world that remind us of them in some way.  It could be the littlest of things like just hearing a song, or an expression they used to say.  Or it could be as big as hearing their name, or seeing a picture.  Just keep in mind you will not forget them.  If that person was of any importance to you in your life they will always be with you. 

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